when you compare yourself to others. i mean its good that you notice other people’s good points and want to improve yourself, that’s healthy. im talking about saying how you’ll never be as [insert adjective here] as the other person. you are you so start owning it. i mean if you don’t like yourself how do you expect other people to?
Agreed. We all have our own paces and that we grow in different ways. How I’ve tried to not compare myself is just running MY OWN race, with noone except for me.
Alright, so I’m on this dating site. And I’m really nice. I answer people’s questions and respond promptly. But if you don’t give me any leeway in a conversation to take it somewhere, I’m not going to respond.
Him: “Hi, how’s it going”
Me: “Everything is going well. And yourself?”
Him” ” It going ok, I wanted to trade in my car for a smaller one but couldnt cuz Im still neg in value :(“
I really couldn’t get my page breaks to be cooperating with me. So I’ll share my comparison first and my idea of love when I was younger later.
My perspectives now on love are still rather rigid. After having a few bad romances, I can definitely tell y’all that I have felt love. It is somewhat like a drug that can become very addicting. I guess that’s why I participated in long distance relationships because I had to stagger the time when I met my partner. This may also be due to the barriers that I put up and how they manifested into physical barriers. I’m self destructive. But at least I acknowledge that and am working towards becoming a better partner.
I still guard my heart because I know that I give it away easily. I’ll probably spend my whole life hiding my heart away. I’m scared to be vulnerable. Being in love means that you’re vulnerable. That’s the very nature of love. It’s letting your guard down that enables you to belong to another person.
I still believe that over devotion to a relationship loses the individual. You need to stand strong and love yourself before you can love others. Being patient, understanding, and communicative are very important. It’s all about balance of the “me” and the “we”.
Gawd, I remember falling in love, headfirst, and I paid the consequences. I don’t think that I can ever do that again. He turned into that distant star that I wish for…
Though I’ve also become a lot more wholehearted. I’m not afraid to show who I am. If someone doesn’t like me, their loss, and we wouldn’t have made a great connection anyways. If any negative feelings are harbored, it’s due to my ego being bruised. The ego, MY ego is my greatest enemy - and not the ones that broke my heart.
I’ve had my shares of partners. Sometimes you just need it, but now I know that I prefer a stable partner. It’s after living some life that you know what you want and settle into those preferences.
Lastly, be kind to those that you are getting to know. They are looking for the same thing. They want to believe what you believe in; it may not work out, but don’t let that deter either one of you from your dreams.
Here is the idea of Love that I held onto during my first year in college: